An open letter to the Phi Mu women, who helped me become who I am;
I had never intended to rush. I never wanted to be a "sorority girl". I never thought I'd be "good enough"...
whatever that means.
All the same I ended up joining a house.
No, not house, but a home. (I mean literally, I lived there for a year.) It didn't take me long for me to understand that I wasn't finding a place to fit in but a place that fit me.
I'm loud (I mean real loud), opinionated, spontaneous, rash etc, these women loved me and believed in me all the same. (Especially the women who lived with me and listened to cheers during recruitment; bless all your souls.) I didn't change to join this house, they just brought out the best in me.
Somewhere along the way, I understood why they call it "sisterhood".
I know if I needed anything they would stand by me.
I'll miss the monday night dinners and the formals and parents day and our house mom and... the community.
I'll miss recruitment and most definitely bid day. It's nearly impossible to tell these new Phi Mu's how much this sisterhood will mean to you by senior year. I'm pretty sure it was yesterday I received my bid card, and ran to the house to meet my new sisters. I never thought I would care so much about these women. But here I am. And my only regret is not spending more time with them.
A shout out to my Big Sister,
You got me through a lot. I remember crying in your room (that I eventually lived in, and my little eventually lived in) freshman year because I couldn't get into the classes I needed to. I told you I was going to drop out of school and work at McDonalds for the rest of my life because of that class. Lol. Here I am. Senior year. So thank you for putting up with my absurd breakdowns, and my inability to plan anything, or stick to a schedule. Thanks for being the exact opposite of me and loving me even from recruitment. When you made faces at me on the last day of recruitment, I knew you were a keeper. You are someone I look up to. People ask me why I joined and I always say it was you. How excited you were during recruitment to see me and how excited you were on bid day. You're a gem and I love you. Sorry I'm a mess, but thank you for always picking up my pieces.
To the women who know who they are,
Thank you. Thank you for being my friend, roommate, confidant, go to ice cream buddy, go to margarita buddy, always down to clown buddy, formal date, "can I borrow your white shoes?" participant, little, grand little, great grand little, "will you go to this philanthropy with me?" date, the person who stands by me, the person who insists I'm in a photo, the girl who orders mint and peanut butter together, the girl with the contagious smile, the girl with the biggest heart, and most of all, thank you for being my sister. I wouldn't have made it this far without you guys, and I'm confident I'll never be able to repay you for what you've done.
Without Phi Mu, I wouldn't have met you and we wouldn't have had such incredible adventures.
If I'm being honest (which I am, so you're welcome) this post skims over a lot of what was difficult. But those aren't the moments I want to remember. I will remember how the long nights turned into Culvers adventures and Culvers adventures turned into life long friends. I'll remember how selfless these women are and the lessons they taught me, like how I must refuse to be timid in expressing myself, and that pink can go with anything if you really try. I'll remember how they made me feel and how they pushed me to exemplify love, honor, and truth.
My advice to younger women is to spend as much time at the house as possible. Phi Mu's recruit the women who they want to see taking care of their home. Spend a lot of time with your big sister, and your little sister. Get to know the younger girls. (Younger girls get to know the older girls.) And lastly, don't be afraid. This is a place to be who you are.
In the words of my big sister "Hold tight to each other. The next great adventure is on its way and you're ready for it."
I've done a lot in college, and Phi Mu was by far my grandest adventure.
Thank you for everything you've given me, LIOB
See ya later guys.